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Is Self-Care Your Priority?

February 6th, 2013 · 8 Comments

This past weekend my daughter was arriving back into town at the same time the Super Bowl would be on.  Picking her up would make me miss a good chunk of the big game.  I thought about having her take a cab to get home, but it would be night time and she would be alone, so I wasn’t comfortabe with that.  I had the same safety concern with her taking a local train.  It crossed my mind to arrange for a town car, but I figured that would be $75 or $100, and I still didn’t want her taking that alone.

Then the idea came!

I asked her to see if one of her friends could pick her up and drive her home, and I would pay $20.  Bingo!  A safe way for her to get home, not a big bill for me but a good amount for a teen, and I get to watch the Ravens play the 49ers.

This got me thinking about how we make choices to care for ourselves.  Are you willing to pay more if it’s something that will help you or make you more comfortable?  Are you willing to accept help, if that lets you be more comfortable or more able to do things at another time.

Cold bothers my pain condition, and some years ago, I made the decision to keep our home at 70 degrees in the winter.  This results in higher gas bills and bothers my environmental heart, but I don’t endure a continual low grade ache because of the cold.  For me, that’s a worthwhile trade off.

Some of my patients buy boxes of the disposable drugstore heat packs that you activate, which last 1-2 hours.  This adds up to a significant extra cost, but allows them to be more comfortable while out doing things.

What are some tradeoffs you’ve weighed?  What self care ideas do you have that are important and worth it to you?  (If there are at least several ideas in the comments, I’ll include all of them in a future post.)


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  • Camper Jen // Feb 6, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    I convinced my Supportive Spouse to increase the temp in the house this winter as well. I also have had some guilt about the expense and the environmental heavy footprint I am adding to, but my body is more important. Getting in and out of the car while it is so cold outside really takes a toll on my body and challenges me to plan my errands, shopping, meetings and appointments carefully. I’ve gotten pretty savvy at this balance over time and that has been through trial and error. It also takes patience!

  • How to Cope with Pain // Feb 6, 2013 at 7:26 pm

    You’re definitely right that it also takes patience to find out what works for each person. Hopefully each of us can learn from what others find helpful, so we’re not reinventing the wheel, but we’re each different so need to learn to thrive in our new pain body.

  • Kathy // Feb 6, 2013 at 10:05 pm

    I pay for bus fares even though it isn’t that far so I’m not as tired.
    I buy glasses more often than most to help the eye pain , and buy hats when I loose them for the same reason.
    I only wear comfortable pricey shoes.
    Also if you feel the cold put more than one pair of cheap thermals on even in the house you’ll feel better. And and electric throw rug was my best purchase ever.

  • Martin C // Feb 7, 2013 at 8:43 am

    I continually ask myself, How can I be most kind to myself in this very moment
    It is been my most powerful self-care practice. best to all my fellow brave souls.
    Martin

  • Leslie // Feb 7, 2013 at 9:49 am

    This one tugs at my purse strings, but it is the only thing that makes traveling to visit someone not so near but dear a possibility.

    I plan to stay in a hotel if I’m overnight and being driven more than an hour. Going there and back is too hard on me, and so I never used to go anywhere. I only visited with friends and family over the internet or phone.

    There are still times when I have to bow out graciously, of course, but I do get to go more than I used to by staying overnight. It adds a layer of connection to my life. Often, I find myself sincerely invited to stay there rather than a hotel. Then I feel my way through each unique situation.

    Thanks for the choice of topics. Stellar.
    Best wishes to all,
    Leslie

  • Bob Zalewski // Feb 7, 2013 at 9:59 am

    My whole body is painful.I try hard to not take pain meds,but it doesnt always work. One thing that I find the helps me is my sense of humor.I always had one. I find the humor in everything.
    I can “pick on” myself,no problem. I say to my wife that I act like a 16 yr. old. Her reply,”Honey,its more like a 12 yr. old.”Back handed remark? I laugh,and laugh hard.LOL Laughter IS the best medicine……

  • Mary // Feb 7, 2013 at 12:13 pm

    My challenge is limiting my “to-do” list. After realizing that just glancing at a long one can overwhelm and make a pain-free morning pain-filled. It is a trigger for my pain.
    I weight out what I need to do: is it a should or is it a could, or can it be delegated. I’ve made some tough decisions, but the prize is less pain!

  • Victoria // Feb 19, 2013 at 2:39 pm

    Life is way to short to endure pain on a daily basis just to save a few bucks. You should be enjoying life to the max and if that means spending a little more on yourself then go for it. I personally use red light therapy for any pain that I am dealing with. It’s a small initial investment but oh so worth it :)

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