Comments on: Top 10 Countdown of Your Most Creative Relaxation Ideas http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/ Wed, 17 Mar 2010 04:28:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sandra http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-15866 Sandra Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:43:38 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-15866 We shouldn't criticize Diane, we should feel sorry for her instead and hope she never has to experience "REAL" pain. How sad for her to think this way. I am curious, however, on her definition of pain, and I wonder just how much she can tolerate. Most of us would probably laugh at her answer and wish that was our definition of pain. I imagine Diane being the biggest wimp of all when it comes to her level of pain, which is probably a 9 or 10 in her eyes which would equal a 2 or 3 in ours. She just never experience "real" pain, so let's hope she never has to as I'm sure her cries would be the loudest, as most of us, our cries are never heard, because most of us do keep our pain inside so we don't worry others whom we love. If she only knew. God help her when she does cry out. It upsets me when people judge others without truly knowing and understanding what each individual goes through with high levels of pain. I found high tolerance comes with intense pain. It's amazing what some people can actually handle. Good luck Diane, I truly hope you never have to deal with it, and please, please don't ever say those things to people who lost loved ones that suffered so much and never cried out for help. Learn to understand each one of us, as each one of us has our own story, and Diane, we do deal with it. We don't have a choice but to deal with it. We shouldn’t criticize Diane, we should feel sorry for her instead and hope she never has to experience “REAL” pain. How sad for her to think this way. I am curious, however, on her definition of pain, and I wonder just how much she can tolerate. Most of us would probably laugh at her answer and wish that was our definition of pain. I imagine Diane being the biggest wimp of all when it comes to her level of pain, which is probably a 9 or 10 in her eyes which would equal a 2 or 3 in ours. She just never experience “real” pain, so let’s hope she never has to as I’m sure her cries would be the loudest, as most of us, our cries are never heard, because most of us do keep our pain inside so we don’t worry others whom we love. If she only knew. God help her when she does cry out. It upsets me when people judge others without truly knowing and understanding what each individual goes through with high levels of pain. I found high tolerance comes with intense pain. It’s amazing what some people can actually handle. Good luck Diane, I truly hope you never have to deal with it, and please, please don’t ever say those things to people who lost loved ones that suffered so much and never cried out for help. Learn to understand each one of us, as each one of us has our own story, and Diane, we do deal with it. We don’t have a choice but to deal with it.

]]> By: Dee http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3643 Dee Thu, 20 Sep 2007 12:44:11 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3643 Afternoon naps are a wonderful luxury. Great list, I feel more relaxed after reading it. :-) Afternoon naps are a wonderful luxury. Great list, I feel more relaxed after reading it. :-)

]]> By: Bob http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3639 Bob Thu, 20 Sep 2007 02:21:36 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3639 Great list! I just submitted this post to StumbleUpon. Thanks for a good read! Great list! I just submitted this post to StumbleUpon. Thanks for a good read!

]]> By: How to Cope with Pain http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3573 How to Cope with Pain Sat, 01 Sep 2007 03:00:14 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3573 Well put, Jay. No one has the right to judge another's pain. Well put, Jay. No one has the right to judge another’s pain.

]]> By: Jay http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3567 Jay Tue, 28 Aug 2007 10:55:13 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3567 It is difficult to be subjective about pain as it cannot easily be measured. Even if you can measure pain, you would have to offset it with an individuals tolerance. Diane's comments might apply to a lot of people, but she cannot know that it applies to anyone visiting this website, and my guess is that visitors to this site are probably genuine courageous chronic pain sufferers rather than whiners... I would interpret 'wimp' as maybe someone with a lower pain tolerance, but no-one can have the right to judge someone else's pain.... It is difficult to be subjective about pain as it cannot easily be measured. Even if you can measure pain, you would have to offset it with an individuals tolerance. Diane’s comments might apply to a lot of people, but she cannot know that it applies to anyone visiting this website, and my guess is that visitors to this site are probably genuine courageous chronic pain sufferers rather than whiners…
I would interpret ‘wimp’ as maybe someone with a lower pain tolerance, but no-one can have the right to judge someone else’s pain….

]]> By: Socrates http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3549 Socrates Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:23:28 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3549 Dianne, By "wimp" I assume that you mean "cowardly". That's the definition I'm familar with. Let's say that you're correct that people are cowardly about their pain. Why do you believe that they need to be less cowardly? Will this help them cope with their pain better? If so, how does one become less cowardly? Just suck it up, be stoic and quiet? Why believe that this makes you less cowardly - i.e. less of a wimp? Dianne,

By “wimp” I assume that you mean “cowardly”. That’s the definition I’m familar with. Let’s say that you’re correct that people are cowardly about their pain. Why do you believe that they need to be less cowardly? Will this help them cope with their pain better? If so, how does one become less cowardly? Just suck it up, be stoic and quiet? Why believe that this makes you less cowardly – i.e. less of a wimp?

]]> By: How to Cope with Pain http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3548 How to Cope with Pain Tue, 21 Aug 2007 11:24:02 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3548 Well said, Jeisea! Well said, Jeisea!

]]> By: jeisea http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3547 jeisea Tue, 21 Aug 2007 11:22:04 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3547 People with chronic pain suffer not only from physical pain, but also from the pain caused by others prejudices born often from ignorance and arrogance. Sufferers have enough to contend with without having to validate their pain. People with chronic pain suffer not only from physical pain, but also from the pain caused by others prejudices born often from ignorance and arrogance. Sufferers have enough to contend with without having to validate their pain.

]]> By: Lynn http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3545 Lynn Tue, 21 Aug 2007 03:33:01 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3545 HtCwP--Your response to Diane D. was well put. Diane D. clearly has no understanding of courage, strength, and determination of the human spirit shared by so many with chronic pain. It might even help her sense of humanity, too! HtCwP–Your response to Diane D. was well put. Diane D. clearly has no understanding of courage, strength, and determination of the human spirit shared by so many with chronic pain. It might even help her sense of humanity, too!

]]> By: How to Cope with Pain http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/comment-page-1/#comment-3543 How to Cope with Pain Tue, 21 Aug 2007 00:58:03 +0000 http://www.howtocopewithpain.org/blog/125/top-10-countdown-of-your-most-creative-relaxation-ideas/#comment-3543 Ouch! Several things strike me about this comment, and I decided to let it stay. Most of my readers deal with <i>quite a bit</i> of pain. People who haven't experienced this (and I bet Diane hasn't), can barely imagine what levels of pain many of you contend with. Almost 100% of pain, especially severe pain, <i>does</i> have a clear "physiological cause." For many types of pain, the problem is that you can't <i>see</i> pain - but that certainly doesn't mean it's not there! I'm not sure how she got to the "you just have to deal with it" - not a logical statement. There are many things to do to help yourself. "Dealing with it" - <i>in positive ways</i> is what this site is about. Don't worry, readers, you are not "wimps." You are brave people coping with a difficult illness. Don't give thought to people like Diane, who put others down and minimize their suffering. And don't pass on the hostility or react to it. Unless, that is, you give thought to her to practice your loving kindness to <i>all</i> others :) Ouch! Several things strike me about this comment, and I decided to let it stay.

Most of my readers deal with quite a bit of pain. People who haven’t experienced this (and I bet Diane hasn’t), can barely imagine what levels of pain many of you contend with.

Almost 100% of pain, especially severe pain, does have a clear “physiological cause.” For many types of pain, the problem is that you can’t see pain – but that certainly doesn’t mean it’s not there!

I’m not sure how she got to the “you just have to deal with it” – not a logical statement. There are many things to do to help yourself. “Dealing with it” – in positive ways is what this site is about.

Don’t worry, readers, you are not “wimps.” You are brave people coping with a difficult illness. Don’t give thought to people like Diane, who put others down and minimize their suffering. And don’t pass on the hostility or react to it. Unless, that is, you give thought to her to practice your loving kindness to all others :)

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